Now a days it is the more discuss topic among the society. There are more and more people and gentle man gives the tips to do marriage. But it is our turn to choose the good life partner for our long life.
Which Marriage is Good
In this topic I am going to discuss the most important factor on the difference type of marriage, i. e. Arrange Marriage or Love Marriage. I will focus on the different types of merits as well as demerits on the both of the marriage.
This topic completely wait on your own decision to operate by the family background. By the way I am now also in this stage to marry someone. Still let’s take a step on it…
This is really difficult questions as different people have different opinion and perceptions. Both the marriage institutions have their own advantages and disadvantages. If you compare both the marriage institutions, you will find that there are a few things which you like in arranged marriage and there must be many things which you find good in love marriage. I am here sharing a few things as comparison on the both side.
Arrange Vs. Love
In Arranged Marriage, your family chose the partner for you and they compare a lot of things from financial status of the other’s family, social status, family background, education etc. So, the relationship is not based upon single criteria.
In Love Marriage, you first understand each-other, like each-other and love each-other and then only you take this important decision of marriage. You pay attention to the education, mindset, understanding, attitude, behavior, thought process, but don’t pay much attention to financial status and family background.
In Arranged Marriage, whenever you face any issue or there is any dispute between you and your partner, your family is always there to support you and help you to resolve the issue.
In Love Marriage, your family take the back seat and they interrupt between you and your partner only when you ask them to help you out. They never take any initiative to resolve your issue by themselves.
In Arranged Marriage, you don’t enter into this bond with lots of expectations from your partner, because you know it very well that you have to adjust with this new family and your partner whether you accept it or not.
In Love Marriage, as you both know each-other well, so you have a lot of expectations from each-other. You expect a lot of thing from your partner because you have mutually decided to get into this relationship. If your partner doesn’t meet your expectations you feel frustrated over it.
In Arranged Marriage, you expect that your in-laws will give you a lot of gifts and money as dowry.
In Love Marriage, you don’t have such expectations from your in-laws to give your dowry.
In Arranged Marriage, you take time to understand each other and build trust on each-other. You don’t know much about each-other, so in the initial phase you don’t enjoy the good level of understanding and make adjustments with a lot of things.
In Love Marriage, you know each-other very well. You have good level of understanding with each-other and trust factor is on the higher side. So, from the first day of your marriage, you don’t think about adjustments, rather you enjoy your understanding with your partner.
In Arranged Marriage, you take time to think and act like a team.
In Love Marriage, you think and act like a team from day one onwards .
In Arranged Marriage, you don’t worry about small and big things in life because you always have family’s support.
In Love Marriage, you plan everything and work to achieve your couple goals because you know that family support will be minimum or nil.
By : Manisha Verma
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